I have this problem. When I really care about a person (guy), I have an incredibly hard time walking away. I care way more than I should.
This is why I'm awake at 2:22am listening to my iTunes playlist entitled "sad songs" & blogging.
I've mentioned before that I've been in love twice. The first time around I was young--20 to be exact--& it went on & off for years. When I wasn't crying my eyes out, it was good. But every time we went "off" it completely destroyed me. Even now, 4 years after the last time I find myself struggling with my heart. It's rough up in my heart area these days.
The second time was fairly recent. It was slow burning but faded incredibly quickly once the end was in sight. I saw the end coming but refused to believe it. I thought I could fix him. Bad move. We all know it doesn't work like that. In the end, I was left completely confused & frustrated.
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Guy #1... well, let's not go there. It's a never-ending story.
Life is about learning when to fight & when to walk away. I have yet to figure that whole part out. When is it time to throw in the towel? How many second chances does someone really get? Is love sometimes just not enough? When is enough enough? When do you walk away & say "never again" & really mean it?
Ladies, I don't have the answers to these questions. At least not in my own life. I hope you have figured these out for yourselves. 'Cause it ain't fun, ladies. It ain't fun.
Hey, if you know the answers how about helping a sister out??
xoxo, B.
1 thoughts:
This is something I have ALWAYS struggled with. I've ended up staying with porn addicts, cheaters, THE WORKS! And while I still really suck at walking away, I'm lucky enough to have a big sister who had some similar struggles and has given me these rules over the years:
1) You should NEVER be with someone if you feel like there is ANYTHING you have to look past or make excuses for.
2) Never waste your time on anyone who doesn't make you feel like you are the absolute BEST thing that ever happened to the world.
3) You should never, ever, EVER have to wonder how he feels about you. If he's really "the one," he will go out of his way to show you that he cares.
I've sort of added to those, too, that if there's anything about the relationship (whether something about him or things that he's done or how he's treating you) that you wouldn't want your mother to know, LEAVE. And last, if the relationship ever causes you STRESS (or pretty much anything but peaceful, happy feelings), it's not right.
Knowing these hasn't necessarily made it any less painful for me to walk away from any given situation. They do, however, help me to recognize that it's best. Hope these help!
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